Analyzing Social Flops

If you are thinking that you are awkward in social situations think about why. There are a bunch of reasons why you might think you are but do they really fit or are you over-thinking as we tend to do. Here is the list of what might be going on according to Elaine's workbook p.124 -127.

* The other person didn't seem to want to talk to you.

* The other person didn't want to talk to anyone right now.

* It's you who really didn't want to talk.

* You just couldn't think of anything to say.

* You did all the talking.

* The other person did all the talking and you felt bored.

* The other person walked away after a while.

* The other person was rude, argumentative.

We are not big on chit chat for we love the deeper talk and that is what gives us a hard time when it comes to social get-togethers. There might be times that you might have not socialized as well as you thought you should have. My thought is not to worry about it. But maybe you feel you need to reframe it. Well as you saw in the other blogs, you can do that. I am trying not to worry about others might thing of my flops in social settings.